What happens when relationships become aa place of disappointment, confusion and pain?

Whether it’s a betrayal, infidelity, or a break-up you didn’t see coming.
Or the slow build up of resentment from people-pleasing,  or staying quiet to keep the peace.
Or a sex life gone flat.
I work with individuals and couples to find a way back to themselves without shutting down or disappearing.

Coming Back to Yourself in Relationship

You’re here because something has shifted.

Your body has been thrown off by rupture, betrayal, or loss.

Your mind keeps looping, replaying, trying to make sense of what happened.

Intimacy has become confusing or disconnected in ways you can’t explain.

We slow things down enough to understand what’s actually happening, internally and relationally, so your next steps can come from a grounded place.

This is depth-oriented, body-based work for people who want clarity,  steadiness,  and truth.

You might be here because: 

 

  • You’re reeling after betrayal 
  • You’re stuck between staying and leaving
  • You people-please or fawn and want to understand these patterns
  • You’ve gone through a breakup and don’t want to repeat similar attachment patterns in your next relationship 
  • You feel disconnected from your sexuality or your body and want to find pleasure again 
  • You want connection but don’t want to lose yourself in the process

Areas I work in

 

betrayal trauma

Infidelity and betrayal can shatter your sense of reality. I help you slow the spiral, understand the impact on your nervous system, and regain clarity—without pressure to stay, leave, forgive, or decide before you’re ready.

codependency

When connection has required you to override yourself, we explore how those patterns formed—and how to stay present without disappearing or controlling the relationship.

break-ups + Attachment

Some endings destabilize more than others. Together, we work with the grief, fear, and unfinished attachment so the rupture doesn’t harden into self-protection.

sexuality + intimacy

Sexual patterns often carry early attachment strategies. I work with individuals and couples to explore desire, avoidance, and erotic charge with curiosity and care—without pathologizing.

sonoma and napa relationship coach

There is hope for healing.

I help people find their way back to themselves after relationships have left them confused, disconnected, or unsure of what’s real.

When betrayal, codependency, or painful patterns have taken over, it’s easy to lose touch with your own instincts. I work with individuals and couples to slow things down, understand what’s happening in your body and nervous system, and build clarity from the inside out.

This work is grounded in attachment theory, somatics, and relational approaches from Ellyn Bader and the Gottmans.

But more than anything, it’s about helping you trust yourself again—whether you’re staying, leaving, or still figuring it out.

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