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What is betrayal recovery coaching?
Betrayal recovery coaching is specialized support for individuals navigating the aftermath of relational betrayal – whether from infidelity, emotional affairs, deception, or broken trust.
As your coach, I provide guidance, tools, and strategies to help you process your experience, rebuild your sense of self, and make informed decisions about your future.
The focus is on your healing journey, personal empowerment, and moving forward with clarity and strength.
How is betrayal recovery coaching different than therapy?
While therapy often focuses on diagnosing and treating mental health conditions or exploring past trauma, coaching is action-oriented and future-focused.
My approach incorporates somatic experiencing and somatic recovery work, which means we address how betrayal trauma is held in your body, not just your mind.
I help you identify your goals, develop practical strategies, and take concrete steps toward healing and recovery while also working with your nervous system’s responses to trauma.
Coaches don’t diagnose or treat mental health disorders, but we do provide support, accountability, and guidance as you navigate this challenging time.
Many clients benefit from both coaching and therapy simultaneously.
What happens in a consultation?
This is a safe space to share where you are, what you’re struggling with, and what kind of support you’re looking for.
We’ll talk through my approach and see if it feels like a good fit. You’ll leave with a sense of direction whether or not we continue together.
How do I know I'm ready for coaching?
You’re ready if you’re seeking support and guidance through this difficult time. You don’t need to have everything figured out or be “past the worst of it.”
Whether you’re in the immediate aftermath of discovery or months into your healing journey, coaching can help.
The main requirement is a willingness to engage in the process and work toward your own healing and growth.
What if I don't know if I will stay or go?
This uncertainty is one of the most agonizing parts of betrayal recovery, and you’re not alone in feeling torn between staying and leaving.
Most of my clients spend weeks or months in this painful limbo, and that’s completely normal.
The good news is that you don’t need to make this decision right now, and coaching can actually help you get to a place of clarity.
We’ll work on stabilizing your nervous system first, because it’s nearly impossible to make good decisions when you’re in trauma response.
As you heal and reconnect with your authentic self, the answer about your relationship often becomes clearer naturally.
Some clients discover they want to fight for their relationship, others realize they need to leave, and some find a timeline that works for them.
The goal isn’t to push you in any direction – it’s to help you make whatever decision feels most aligned with your values and what you truly want for your life.
How long does this process take?
Betrayal recovery is deeply personal, and timelines vary significantly.
Some clients work with me for a few months to navigate immediate decisions and stabilize, while others engage in longer-term coaching as they rebuild their lives.
Generally, most clients see meaningful progress within 3-6 months, but the journey continues beyond our formal coaching relationship.
We’ll regularly assess your progress and adjust our approach as needed.
What are your rates?
Individual coaching sessions are $175 for 60 minutes. We start with a commitment of 4 sessions over one month, which allows us to build momentum and create meaningful progress in your healing journey.
After the initial month, we can continue month-to-month based on your needs and goals.
A sliding scale is available for those who need financial accommodation – please don’t let cost be a barrier to getting the support you deserve.
How long are your sessions?
All of my sessions are 60 minutes.
What if I'm not sure I want to save my relationship?
I am a heterosexual, cis, able-bodied female with a preference for being in a monogamous relationship.
That’s completely normal and you don’t need to know what you want for your relationship to benefit from coaching.
Much of betrayal recovery work is about rebuilding your sense of self, processing trauma, and gaining clarity about what YOU want and need.
Many clients discover what they truly want through the coaching process.
Whether you ultimately choose to rebuild your relationship, end it, or are still deciding, the work we do together will help you make that decision from a place of strength rather than reactive pain.
I feel like I should be over this by now. Is it too late for coaching?
There’s no timeline for healing from betrayal trauma, and it’s never too late to get support.
Whether you’re days, months, or even years from your discovery, coaching can help.
Many people try to “tough it out” alone and find themselves stuck in patterns of rumination, anxiety, or numbness.
Your nervous system doesn’t follow social expectations about how long healing “should” take.
Starting coaching when you’re ready – not when others think you should be ready – is what matters.